Author Archives: Tuppy Owens

Members tell us that only other disabled people really understand them, so make the best partners

Some people who become disabled after forming a relationship find their partners accept them and the relationship thrives, but others don’t. Other disabled people may find non-disabled partners and it works fine, others don’t.

If you are disabled and reject other disabled people as partners, you may not be comfortable in your own body, and not accepting yourself.

Outsiders members gain a great deal from the club, and many say it has changed their live for the better.

Outsiders 2017 Jamboree on 12th June

This is always a hugely enjoyable afternoon with the Tactile Fashion Show, Snail Racing and a discussion. It will start at 1pm and continue till 5pm at the Backyard Comedy Club in Bethnal Green, London.

The event allows people who are curious about Outsiders to come along and see for yourself what an amazing collection of members we have.

See you there!

Outsiders working with other charities

Back in the 90s Dr Tuppy Owens wrote to 32 disability charities to see if they would work with us. We do so much, voluntarily and unsupported, where as they have funds, salaries and could be supportive. None of them agreed to work with us.

This year we tried again and contacted Enhance the UK, Leonard Cheshire Disability and The British Society of Sexual Medicine to invite them to speak at the March meeting of the Sexual  Health and Disability Alliance, SHADA. None of them came, but Leonard Cheshire say they will come next time.

I guess the other charities steer clear of us because we focus on disabled people enjoying their intimate lives and do massive things to support them to do so. Oh well, we have worked alone since 1979 so we can carry on, unfunded and on a shoe string!

Supporting deaf people who feel isolated and dismissed by society

The last meeting of the Sexual Health and Disability Alliance SHADA, listened to people who live with hearing loss and no hearing. There are those born deaf who use signing, those who lose their hearing who use lip reading , and those who use hearing aids who might also use lip reading.

We were sad that Action on Hearing Loss ignored our invitations to come and speak, and we wonder what they do, as nobody mentioned they had been supported by them. Members attending the meeting realised how different hearing loss is to other impairments. Signers often stick with their own community and are not so isolated and there are some groups for other isolated people but not enough support. GPs and hospital staff are ignorant and many people treat them badly. Basically, they have a rough ride.

The Outsiders Club and SHADA reaching out to more people

Our Club and the Sexual Health and Disability Alliance are reaching out to gain more members as both are free and we do great work. Both provide for isolated people : many single disabled people feel isolated and health and social care professionals who support their disabled clients to enjoy their sexual lives feel very much alone in their work. Both groups appreciate what we do.

Outsiders Trust influencing the law

Outsiders founder, Dr Tuppy Owens was featured in the Scottish Sunday Times 12.03.17 in an article ” Ban on buying of sex a ‘breach of rights’ “. Cchallenging the Scottish parliament, she told them that :-

It is illegal not to support disabled people to enjoy the same pleasures as others enjoy in the privacy of the their own homes(Equality Act 2010, Human Rights Act 1998).

This means that those disabled people who rely on sex workers must continue to have that right. She was backed up by Professor Claire de Than, Human Rights and Criminal Lawyer.

Next SHADA Meeting on 14th March

This meeting will focus on hearing loss and hearing impairment in the morning and in the afternoon we will hear from other organisations which support disabled people with their sexual lives, ie Enhance the UK, Leonard Cheshire and the British Society of Sexual Medicine . We hope to find ways to work with those organisations and support each other as we are all stigmatised and fighting the anti-sex establishment.