Author Archives: Tuppy Owens

The Outsiders Trust is in the limelight with Professor Claire De Than and Dr Tuppy Owens being interviewed

Following the item on Loose Women on ITV we have been inundated with demands from the press – see, for example the article by Beth Timmins in the Independent http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/disabled-people-sex-surrogates-experts-centre-for-autism-national-autistic-society-sexual-health-a7839181.html which was published on July 14th 2017. The Belfast Telegraph will publish more on Sunday 16th July,

 

Brilliant new Trustees to ensure our future

We are honoured to have four new Trustees joining us who all already work for various projects and support Tuppy with her work. These are Professor Claire de Than, who works for the sexual rights of people with disabilities, Helen Dunman who teaches people with multiple and profound learning disabilities at a college, Sam Chung, who supports Outsiders and Matt Chase who provides services to disabled people.

This mean our projects will thrive for ever – hooray!

Praise from a volunteer

This came from a guy who has helped our charity, “In a world that seems so divided ant intolerant at the moment it is a pleasure to be involved in something that promotes understanding, tolerance and unity. Important work,

Outsiders 2017 Jamboree a Magical Success

We enjoyed a fabulous afternoon in the Backyard Comedy Club in Bethnal Green in June. We started with the Tactile Fashion Show which was run by costumier D. and both physically disabled and other people dressed up in outfits of various textures and walked around inviting others to feel the clothing. This is to include blind members in the experience. It was really exciting and spectacular.

After that, Mouse, dressed as a Mermaid gave everyone coloured pens, sparkly stick-ons, wool and white boards to draw her and make a lovely image.

 

Winning Image by Maria

The images were all put up at the back of the stage and Tuppy Owens, founder of Outsiders, chose the winners. It was won by a lovely girl called Maria.

Tuppy announced the Ted O’Dwyer Award for Rising Above It to Anna Higgs who is living a really positive life after having a serious stroke at the age of 24.

Lastly, Jo King gave us a lesson in gaining sexual confidence so that you can walk (or wheel)m tall when approaching a potential partner and Anna Higgs spoke of how she has done this herself by learning to be a burlesque dancer. This lead to discussions and we decided to create a series of photos of disabled people saying, ‘Please ask if I need any support instead of forcing support on us or ignoring us’, put in various wording.

 

Members tell us that only other disabled people really understand them, so make the best partners

Some people who become disabled after forming a relationship find their partners accept them and the relationship thrives, but others don’t. Other disabled people may find non-disabled partners and it works fine, others don’t.

If you are disabled and reject other disabled people as partners, you may not be comfortable in your own body, and not accepting yourself.

Outsiders members gain a great deal from the club, and many say it has changed their live for the better.

Outsiders 2017 Jamboree on 12th June

This is always a hugely enjoyable afternoon with the Tactile Fashion Show, Snail Racing and a discussion. It will start at 1pm and continue till 5pm at the Backyard Comedy Club in Bethnal Green, London.

The event allows people who are curious about Outsiders to come along and see for yourself what an amazing collection of members we have.

See you there!

Outsiders working with other charities

Back in the 90s Dr Tuppy Owens wrote to 32 disability charities to see if they would work with us. We do so much, voluntarily and unsupported, where as they have funds, salaries and could be supportive. None of them agreed to work with us.

This year we tried again and contacted Enhance the UK, Leonard Cheshire Disability and The British Society of Sexual Medicine to invite them to speak at the March meeting of the Sexual  Health and Disability Alliance, SHADA. None of them came, but Leonard Cheshire say they will come next time.

I guess the other charities steer clear of us because we focus on disabled people enjoying their intimate lives and do massive things to support them to do so. Oh well, we have worked alone since 1979 so we can carry on, unfunded and on a shoe string!

Supporting deaf people who feel isolated and dismissed by society

The last meeting of the Sexual Health and Disability Alliance SHADA, listened to people who live with hearing loss and no hearing. There are those born deaf who use signing, those who lose their hearing who use lip reading , and those who use hearing aids who might also use lip reading.

We were sad that Action on Hearing Loss ignored our invitations to come and speak, and we wonder what they do, as nobody mentioned they had been supported by them. Members attending the meeting realised how different hearing loss is to other impairments. Signers often stick with their own community and are not so isolated and there are some groups for other isolated people but not enough support. GPs and hospital staff are ignorant and many people treat them badly. Basically, they have a rough ride.