Outsiders attracts a large number of members with MS and some complain that they don’t get any support. So we decided they would enjoy supporting each other! Luckily our online Clubhouse has the facilities for this to happen and we look forward to seeing how members gain sexual confidence and feel much happier.
We were able to not only give advice on what to put in your online dating profile when on a dating site when you have a disability, but promote Outsiders in a very positive light. Hopefully it will bring us lots more members, fingers crossed.
The boy who was wanting this advice was told to have a dating buddy so that when he got turned down by a woman, he would have someone to cheer him up and keep him optimistic. One of our female members has now offered to be that buddy. We do have some wonderful members!
The link to the program is http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b08zyqdf#play
Dr Tuppy Owens of the Outsiders Trust, gives an account of ways for people with inherited conditions and conditions which tend to run in families, to enjoy a happy and successful intimate life.
The new trustees really got on well together – a brilliant mix of disabled and non-disabled experts all bringing excellent ideas to the table to hopefully make our projects better respected, more successful and useful.
Following the item on Loose Women on ITV we have been inundated with demands from the press – see, for example the article by Beth Timmins in the Independent http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/disabled-people-sex-surrogates-experts-centre-for-autism-national-autistic-society-sexual-health-a7839181.html which was published on July 14th 2017. The Belfast Telegraph will publish more on Sunday 16th July,
We are honoured to have four new Trustees joining us who all already work for various projects and support Tuppy with her work. These are Professor Claire de Than, who works for the sexual rights of people with disabilities, Helen Dunman who teaches people with multiple and profound learning disabilities at a college, Sam Chung, who supports Outsiders and Matt Chase who provides services to disabled people.
This mean our projects will thrive for ever – hooray!
This came from a guy who has helped our charity, “In a world that seems so divided ant intolerant at the moment it is a pleasure to be involved in something that promotes understanding, tolerance and unity. Important work,
We enjoyed a fabulous afternoon in the Backyard Comedy Club in Bethnal Green in June. We started with the Tactile Fashion Show which was run by costumier D. and both physically disabled and other people dressed up in outfits of various textures and walked around inviting others to feel the clothing. This is to include blind members in the experience. It was really exciting and spectacular.
After that, Mouse, dressed as a Mermaid gave everyone coloured pens, sparkly stick-ons, wool and white boards to draw her and make a lovely image.
The images were all put up at the back of the stage and Tuppy Owens, founder of Outsiders, chose the winners. It was won by a lovely girl called Maria.
Tuppy announced the Ted O’Dwyer Award for Rising Above It to Anna Higgs who is living a really positive life after having a serious stroke at the age of 24.
Lastly, Jo King gave us a lesson in gaining sexual confidence so that you can walk (or wheel)m tall when approaching a potential partner and Anna Higgs spoke of how she has done this herself by learning to be a burlesque dancer. This lead to discussions and we decided to create a series of photos of disabled people saying, ‘Please ask if I need any support instead of forcing support on us or ignoring us’, put in various wording.
Some people who become disabled after forming a relationship find their partners accept them and the relationship thrives, but others don’t. Other disabled people may find non-disabled partners and it works fine, others don’t.
If you are disabled and reject other disabled people as partners, you may not be comfortable in your own body, and not accepting yourself.
Outsiders members gain a great deal from the club, and many say it has changed their live for the better.
But boo to Scotland which is making an exception of private and religious schools.
We wonder what the quality of education will be – and if disability will be included. Why are politicians so very much behind the times?