‘Thanks to Outsiders I am out and proud and loving it. Because of the confidence this group gave me, I was able to go to Pride London this summer.’
‘Belonging to the women’s group, I realised I really am asexual and now I am living it.’
‘Outsiders made be see that it’s OK to approach other women I fancy’
We welcome gay, bi and asexual members who may perhaps, because of their disabilities, have felt free to come out before.
Here are some of the things they are telling us:
‘Outsiders has connected me with other people who are as ill as I am, which is a great comfort, as they understand and show concern for me.’ Emma
‘Thanks to Outsiders I have started seeing someone for the first time in my life! It’s a huge learning curve but it’s great to have the peer support from other wonderful, intelligent and sensitive women.’
‘Having allowed me connect with people I wouldn’t have otherwise, I have new friends, new relationships and a much richer life because of Outsiders.’
‘Within just a few short months in Outsiders I was able to meet and begin a relationship with a really lovely person.’
‘Having grown up with a disability, I have always felt that society generally does not view people with disabilities as viable romantic partners.’
‘Outsiders provides an invaluable platform on which those of us who are excluded by society’s attitudes are able to get together with each other. This means that we don’t have to suffer the indignity of continuously being rejected by society in our search to find love.’ Sam
‘Outsiders has helped me come out of my inner shell and be more sociable.’ Jade
‘Outsiders has introduced me to members with different disabilities who I have enjoyed speaking to and getting to know.’ (man with Diabetes)
‘Outsiders has showed me that lots of others are in the same boat.’ Desi
‘Outsiders… the diverse yet most inclusive club were we are liked and learn to like’. Arun
The Outsiders now has many successful and enjoyable lunches, a vibrant Clubhouse with amazing group chats offering peer support, and we have a new buddy system to help newcomers settle in, enjoy and make the most of the club. Love affairs are blossoming.
Many members are offering to help us run the show and create more lunches, group chats and some are becoming buddies to support newcomers who are struggling to find their feet.
We just don’t understand why more disabled people in the UK don’t join us, and why Outsiders Clubs have not bossomed all over the world.
Young people are being invited to contribute their thoughts to a documentary exploring the effects porn is having on the first generation with free access to the internet (in essence 16 to 30 year olds). They want to find out how it’s affecting how we feel about ourselves, our relationships, and how we have sex – in positive and negative ways. It’s a video documentary for BBC iPlayer, to be filmed in early July. They wish to include disabled people.
Call 0203 614 1120 or email Hannah on Hannah.Moore01@BBC.co.uk
Jo King, the wonderful striptease and sexual confidence teacher is now offering disabled women a new course on flirting. She has created a closed group on Facebook, so that interested women can tell her their needs and learn when the next class is. Classes are in central London and inexpensive.
This project is to allow those who support disabled people with their sexual lives to see what others are doing around the world, and join together for mutual support. Many health and social care professionals working to help their disabled clients in this way feel quite isolated and unsupported – so this will provide them with opportunities to find other people to start local groups and enjoy group discussions online.
Some amazing pioneers are already featured on the website and we will be collecting many more in the next 6 months, launching the website in London in October.
One of our female members has just published this blog https://heidicopeman.wordpress.com/2016/03/29/i-know/
Please read it and, if you like what you hear, please send a donation and spread the word by sharing the link.
All of a sudden, the club has burst into action with our new Group Chats – discussions about everything from Self Improvement (lots of wonderful peer support going on there) to the Asperger’s and/or OCD, Everything Kinky to the local Social Group Chats. The latter provide a way for those who live in and near each other to discuss how they would like to meet each other and those left alone at Christmas, for example, can keep each other company. We hope these local groups will blossom all over the UK and, indeed the world, Our Asperger’s and/or OCD Group is run by a woman in Canada.
The Jamboree is the Outsiders annual event to attract new members and for everybody to have fun. The date is Monday 6th June 2016. We will have a Tactile Fashion Show with a bind members enjoying the sensation of touching the model’s outfits which are all lovely or funny to feel – silk, velvet, rope or bubblewrap. Members and volunteers model the clothing. We also have comedy, with Romina Puma, Snail Racing (where competitors around bound in cling film and race, tummy down on a slippery plastic mat.
We also have debates and this year the topic will be ‘If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.‘ – Maya Angelou.
Sunny Snake Boy will be performing a belly dance and Stacey Clare will be doing a sensual dance.
Lunch and tea is available to purchase and there is a bar. Entrance is free and anybody can come along. We will have a collection as Outsiders is unfunded.
Earl Haig Hall 18 Elder Ave, Crouch End, London N8 9TH on Monday 6th June, 2pm to 6pm
‘This matinée mini-ball is one of those events, with fun activities to get everyone mingling. ‘ Time Out
Some Outsiders Jamboree Photos
Outsiders appearied on the Victoria Derbyshire programme – a film about us at 9.15am and a discussion including Tuppy Owens, and Romana Puma later in the programme. You can watch these on BBC iplayer and read all about it on the BBC website.